secret ingredient

secret ingredient

“There was a mood of magic and frenzy to the room. Crystalline swirls of sugar and flour still lingered in the air like kite tails. And then there was the smell-the smell of hope, the kind of smell that brought people home.”
~ Sarah Addison Allen


kitchen clutter set ~ hive ~ now at The Epiphany
baking bundle A
baking bundle B
cutting board
kitchen canisters
kitchen scale
kitchen utensils
knife set
paper towels
secret ingredient sign (EXCLUSIVE)
suds station
vintage toaster (RARE)

Country Table ~ Apple Fall

Ladderback Chair (Vintage) ~ Apple Fall

Ladderback Chair (Paint) ~ Apple Fall

Atelier Pendant Lamp ~ Apple Fall

Olive Tree ~ Apple Fall

Stacked Wire Baskets ~ Apple Fall

Silver Antiqued Rabbit ~ Apple Fall

Gourds in Vintage Bowl ~ Apple Fall

Recipe Books ~ Apple Fall

Stepladder ~ Apple Fall

Plantation Counter ~ Apple Fall

Plantation Corner ~ Apple Fall

Plantation Stove Hood ~ Apple Fall

Wide Stove ~ Apple Fall

Blackberry Bundt Cake ~ Apple Fall

Hanging Wicker Basket ~ Apple Fall

blanket storage table ~ dust bunny

hoya plant ~ dust bunny

Jardiniere Cottage ~ Scarlet Creative ~ now at Collabor88

Giant Beech Trees ~ Little Branch ~ now at Sense Event

Gattomiau ~ THOR (gift, not for sale)


peonies & hope

peonies & hope

G1224 Hair ~ tram ~ now at Collabor88

meghan lace bustier ~ ISON ~ now at Collabor88

royal cardigan ~ ISON ~ January Luxe Box

Svetlana Necklace ~ Dahlia ~ now at The Liaison Collaborative

Greer Bento Mesh Head ~ LeLutka

Tara Applier ~ *YS&YS*

Pose ~ RK Poses (leg position slightly altered)

cigarette ~ kunst

Hope Scrabble Frame ~ {e}lusive designs ~ now at The Liaison Collaborative

Scrabble Letter C ~ {e}lusive designs ~ now at The Liaison Collaborative

Classic Peonies ~ NOMAD ~ now at Collabor88

Moody Dresser ~ Second Spaces ~ now at Collabor88

primrose skybox ~ tarte ~ now at Collabor88

Cabin Candles ~ Dahlia

Antiquarian Books ~ Fancy Decor

lace curtain ~ Knick Knacks

girl things

girl things


Luna Shape for LeLutka Bento ~ Denver’s Shapes ~ coming 1/15 to ULTRA

Maddie Applier ~ *YS&YS*

Greer Bento Mesh Head ~ LeLutka

Lake Hair ~ Truth

Obade Lingerie ~ Boutique N1

Next to the Wall Pose (Series 4, Pose 2) ~ K&S Poses


Piper’s Handbag Set ~ Dahlia ~ coming 1/15 to PocketGacha
Handbag (RARE)
Compacts & Foundation
Lipstick, Mascara & Cream
Makeup Bag & Wallet
Perfume & Lipgloss
Phone & Keys
Sunglasses & Candy

Vintage Rotary Phone with Table ~ DaD ~ January Deco(c)rate

Hustler Vintage Console ~ Ariskea ~ now at FaMESHed

Hustler Gold Flower Pot ~ Ariskea ~ now at FaMESHed

Hustler Babybreath Pot ~ Ariskea ~ now at FaMESHed

standing bulb lamps ~ keke

Bea Reading Chair ~ Apple Fall

Grand Mirror ~ Kalopsia




I knew before my sister told me that my teenage niece had been sexually assaulted. It was a lot of little things, along with a big dose of recognition. My sister told me she’d found out after seeing her daughter’s post on Instagram: #metoo

I don’t know if I was too busy, or not interested in Hollywood drama, or just under a rock – but I missed the whole #metoo campaign that resurfaced last October. It started years ago, then started again when actresses spoke out about having been sexually abused by the same man. Thousands of women all over the world responded, replied, posted – #metoo. My niece was one of them.

And as my sister told me everything she was dealing with as a mother – shock, horror, rage, trying to understand, trying to know what to do for her child – I listened and hugged. We cried. Then, for the first time, I told her what happened to me, what helped and what didn’t, and that when or if it would make a difference, she could tell my niece in case she wanted to talk to someone who’d been through it.

I was a teenager too when it happened. I didn’t tell anyone for years. There’s been a lot of work and a lot of healing since then – and thankfully, I don’t think about it a lot now. But as I sat there with my sister, I remembered that there’s power in telling the story. In not hiding or keeping it a secret that no one should know because they’ll think of you differently.

I wish with everything in me I could reach out to my niece and be there for her. I wish I’d seen her post and could just hashtag back. But I didn’t – and she’s not ready for everyone to know. I get it. She’s talking to her mom, she’s seeing a counselor, and she’s starting to heal. That’s what’s important.

So for now, this is my way of saying what I wish I could. For my niece, and for anyone else who’s there or has been there. Who we are is not what happened. It’s not our fault, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. I promise it won’t always be the first thing you think of when someone touches you. There are great people and places that really help. It does get better.

And most of all – you are not alone.




Treena Hair ~ elikatira ~ now at FaMESHed

Cozy Sweater ~ BUENO ~ now at FaMESHed

Harper Jeans ~ RIOT ~ now at FaMESHed

Greer Bento Mesh Head ~ LeLutka

Tara Applier ~ *YS&YS*

Cyn’s Cozy Cover Chair ~ Bad Unicorn ~ now at FaMESHed

tea with honey

tea with honey


Basic Underwear ~ Dead Dollz ~ now at The Liaison Collaborative

Sonna Hair ~ opale ~ now at The Liaison Collaborative

Chauveau Glasses ~ Mulloy

Greer Bento Mesh Head ~ LeLutka

Vania Applier ~ *YS&YS*

Coffee Break Pose ~ Lyrium


The Poet Set ~ BAMSE ~ now at Shiny Shabby
Desk (RARE)
Book Stack
Magnifying Glass
Steel Vault

Journal ~ PILOT

Brushes Jug ~ THOR

Project Bucket ~ THOR

Chippendale Chair ~ Nutmeg

primrose skybox ~ tarte ~ now at Collabor88